Pagansim: Getting Started

Yup, it's me again, with yet another wiccan post.  This time, I decided to write something about getting started into wicca.  There is a lot of information about wicca, and sometimes it can be a little overwhelming.  When I first started, I had no direction, nor anyone to tell me how to go about learning it.  I remember gathering any information that I can, without knowing good from bad advice.  I had to literally go through everything that I had, and cast out the bad information.  I'm hoping by writing up this topic that people will find this helpful, and won't fall into the same pitfalls that I did when I was starting out.

1. Dealings with research  

Research is an important part of wicca.  As stated before, there is a lot of information regarding to the subject.  It's important to learn as much as you can, when you can.  There is always something new you can learn that can help improve your craft in some way.  No matter if it's learning new ways to craft spells, new found information about moon phases, or even if it's a small tidbit of advice from another wiccan.  It's important to be open to research.  That's how we develop so much knowledge in the first place.

 Ideally, before someone becomes a wiccan, one should study for at least a year and a day.  I didn't do this, but I researched like a dickens before I first practiced spells.  You can study for a year and a day if you want to, it's not required.  What I do recommend is to study tons before you begin spell work (and I mean study!  Study everything!).

Books:

One of my favorite methods of research.  I recommend for people just starting out, to read books from people like Scott Cunningham (here is my review/list of his books: Author Review: Sctott Cunningham).  After you've been somewhat familiar to the craft, then I would branch out and read books from other authors.  I know there are a lot of controversy with some authors, like Silver Revenwolf.  In one of her books specifically that I've noted, she didn't do a very good job (I recommend staying away from Teen Witch.  If you have to buy/read one of her books, make it the solitary practitioner one.  That is probably the only book of her's worth reading/gaining information from).  In some of her books, she bashes Christians, and gives some pretty bad advice to teenagers (regardless of the negative feedback, the solitary practitioner book is the best to read.  She doesn't bash Christians or give bad advice in that one.  She actually just teaches the info, and the spells in that book aren't total bullocks).  In any case, like I said before, wiccans (especially those just starting out) need to do as much research as they most possibly can.  I hope that if you do the research, you branch out a little, when it comes to books.  How do you know if their book doesn't work for you, if you don't give it a read?      

What if you can't buy the books?  No problem, go to your school's and public library, and check out books to help you on your path.  Unfortunately not a lot of library's have an occult section, so you may need to nose around for a while before you find books that will help you.  Some library's don't have books that will help you at all.  When this happens, you can always borrow a friend's books, or turn to the internet for answers.

Internet:

Oh yes, the internet, the easiest source of information.  As much as I love the interwebz, I wouldn't heavily rely on it too much.  There are some good information out there, but you have to sort out through all the bad stuff first.  As I said when I first started, I had to use the internet and I had to do a lot of sorting of good and bad info.  If you do use the internet, I would look up as many sources as possible, to make sure that the information that you're getting isn't bad advice.  I also recommend that you stay away from sites like this one: http://www.spellsofmagic.com/spells.html.  I'm not trying to bash this site.  There are some good ideas for spells, but you have to sort out through a lot of false information, and most of the spells are just utter BS.  On sites like that one, if it looks too good to be true, most likely it's fake, and you would have wasted your time performing the said spell for nothing.  So check your sources.  If you have wiccan friends, you can always ask them for interesting sites to search.


2. Supplies

When you get more into wicca, you'll come to find out that there are a lot of supplies that goes along with the craft.  In my other post about beginning witchcraft, I go through some of the tools (only briefly).  So, you're getting in to wicca, and you're researching supplies.  The sad fact is that some supplies and tools alike are expensive.  Cauldrons alone could run form $10 - $50+.  If you're starting out and are strapped for cash, then obviously you can't afford some of the needed supplies on your list.  However, there is nothing that doesn't say that you can substitute a tool until you can buy it.  I do it all the time.  If there is a wiccan tool, ike a chalice that I would like to have for my work, but can't afford it at the moment, I do the next best thing.  I substitute it with a glass that isn't used for anything, except wiccan work.  You're wiccan tools don't have to be fancy by any means (though it would be nice to have some nifty looking tools), as long as they function the way they're needed.

So, my advice for everyone is that if you can afford grade A supplies, you can get them, but you don't have to.  If the supplies can be substituted with something else, until you can buy what you need, then do it.  Also, another piece of advice: if you don't use a certain tool, or ingredient little to none, then save yourself some money and don't bother buying it.  It's common sense, if you don't use it, don't bother buying it.  This will save you a lot of money.

3. Keeping a journal 

Along with learning about wicca, one should also keep a record of their thoughts and feelings about the craft.  The reason for this is: 1) we can learn from our past spells, seeing what worked and what didn't.  2) It's good to keep your thoughts and feelings together, re-read them, and maybe add something about it later on, or read them for enjoyment.  There are a lot of reasons for keeping one handy.  A lot of wiccans suggest this, as a learning tool, and to become better wiccans.  

Author Review: Scott Cunnhingham

I've been pretty busy lately with life and all that jazz.  I know, it's been a while since I've posted something.  I've seriously had been racking my brain, thinking of more wicca topics that I should write about.  Then, it hit me.  Books.  Every wiccan should have at least one book int heir library.  But, if you're a beginner wiccan, then where do you start?
 

I strongly suggest you start with the one and only, Scott Cunningham.  I have bought three of his books so far, and he's just a compelling writer.  To me, he makes the most sense with his writing, wording each paragraph so people of all reading levels can understand, as well explain the information in his books thoroughly.  He touches every topic that a beginner needs to know, as well as lists references like where to buy your supplies, other publications, etc.  

 

Below, is a list of Scott Cunningham books that I've bought, and use frequently with my wiccan work:

 

Wicca: A guide for the Solitary Practitioner    

A great beginners guide for someone who wants to practice Wicca by themselves, instead of with a coven.  Again, he explains every topic that a beginner needs to know, in depth.  It has everything to the theory of wicca, all the way to examples of spells and rituals.  It also features a little tidbit about Scott Cunningham's own book of shadows, giving the reader examples of what they can do for their own BOS (book of shadows).

Living Wicca 

 

Part two of the book above.  It's just a more in depth about the topics stated in the first book.  I suggest reading the first book, before this one.  This book is for intermediate users, or those who have been into wicca for a while.

 

Wicca in the Kitchen 

 

How many of you had heard of Kitchen witchcraft?  Basically, kitchen witchcraft is when you use cooking, in place of performing a spell, or ritual.  What I like about this book, is that I do a lot of baking, and all the ingredients, as well as how to use them while cooking, are explained in this book.  It even has a small section for vegetarians, as well as a section for what you should incorporate with your cooking on certain holidays.  If you have any interest with including witchcraft with your cooking, this book is for you.

 

Other books you may like (all by Scott Cunningham)

 

Encyclopedia of Magical Herbs

 Magical Herbalism: The Secret Craft of the Wise

The Complete book of Incense, Oils, and Brews

 Earth Power: Techniques of Natural Magic

The Magical Houshold

Encyclopedia of Crystal, Gem, and Metal Magic

The Truth About Witchcraft Today

 Magical Aromatherapy: The Power of Scent

 Earth, Air, Fire, and Water: More Techniques of Natural Magic

The Magic in Food

Divination for Beginners

Spell Crafts: Creating Magical Objects

The Truth About Herb Magic

The Truth About Witchcraft

Hawaiian Magic and Spirituality

Pocket Guide for Fortunetelling 

Dreaming the Divine: Techniques for Sacred Sleep

Cunningham's Book of Shadows: The Path of An American Traditionalist 

 

 

Finding that good 'ol inspiration.

I've been at a rut as of late with my style.  I hardly dress the nines anymore, and I feel like everything has been rather dull.  Looks like it's time to search for inspiration!  So, if you're like me, who needs to search for some of that inspiration to get you out of that rut, I have a few tips for you.

1. Try finding inspiration in books

Books are amazing on their own.  The right words allow your mind to pain a canvas as to what the author is describing.  There are tons of young adult books that have goth characters.  One of them is Vampire Kisses, and I have to say that sometimes I get inspiration from the main character (or from some of the other gothy types in the books).  She has clothes in her closet that give me ideas of what I can bring to my own personal style.  You don't have to limit yourself to goth books either.  If you like fantasy, sci-fi, or even western, try to get inspiration from them.  

2. Look at pictures

Look at pictures that interest you.  I wouldn't limit myself to just goth pictures either, but every picture that you find interesting.  It can even be pictures of nature, animals, or even some mainstream styles.  Keep your mind open and get looking.

3. Listen to music

Music on it's own is a powerful source of inspiration and motivation.  Make a play list of bands and songs that you like, and listen to the music closely.  Sometimes when I do this, I get images, or short stories in my head that inspire me.

4. Write down your dreams

It's nothing new that people keep dream journals.  There are a lot of benefits to keeping dream journals, and looking for inspiration is no exception.  If you start keeping a dream journal, you can go back to read them, and get some inspiration from them.

5. Everyday life

Inspiration happens when you least expect it, and one can find just as much inspiration during everyday life.  Maybe you see someone wearing a neat piece of jewelry, or a shirt that you know would look great with a pair of pants you own.  Pay attention to the daily events in your life and get inspired.

October is here! (A guide on shopping for the spookiest day of the year)

The leaves are turning color, the wind is starting to become colder, and the sunny days of yore are now replaced with cloudy days.  It's October of course, the biggest shopping time of the year for goths.  I'm sure you've noticed it by  now, shopping centers being overtaken by the creepy holiday, selling spooky trinkets to celebrate the coming of Halloween.  If you're like me, then a week (or more) before October first, you were antsy at the passing days, impatiently waiting for the best time of the year (and I don't mean Christmas).  The wait is over, and the time is now!  

But wait, what if you're new to the goth scene, and you don't know where to start?  Below, I have a few tips and tricks to help.  

1. Stay away from cheap products

    This includes anything that looks like it'll fall apart if handled too much (like cheap metals, etc...).  This can be frustrating, especially if you buy the said object for a hefty price, just to have it fall apart on you.  Some mass produced products (not just Halloween, but most products as a whole), are made of cheap materials, and sometimes will break easily.  Anything that looks like it will break if handled too much, stay away from, even if you have to spend a few dollars more to get the better made product.  It'll save you in the long run.  

2. Don't limit yourself to just Halloween stores

I can't tell you how many times I went to Kmart, or the dollar store, and found an accessory that I just had to have.  If you only shop at Halloween stores, then you are limiting yourself to the other possibilities of finding products that can either enhance your look, or give you new ideas.  I know what some of you are thinking.  "Kmart and most dollar stores only sell massed produce items, so why are you telling us to shop there, when you  just told us to stay away from products like that?"  Because, not all products that Kmart, and stores alike sell, are cheap.  There are a lot of cheesy looking costume pieces yes, but sometimes you can find a gem of an accessory to go with your outfit, or something that you can use.  You have to be willing to hunt, if you want to find them though.  

Also, not all Halloween stores sell five star products.  Some of it is mass produced anyway, which means no matter which store you go to, you'll have to hunt to find what you want, and not limiting yourself to just one store, you can find a better range of Halloween goodies.

3. Be Inspired

With any goth outfit, one must be inspired to make it work.  Always look for inspiration, especially around Halloween time.  If you're inspired around this time of year, the sky is the limit, and the accessories that you need, or are inspired to use, will be easier to obtain, and can really make your outfit pop.  With goth fashion, one should be inspired anyway (though I know it's hard sometimes.  I'm just starting to get inspired again myself), but even if you are in a bit of a fashion rut, going shopping for Halloween can be a fun way to become inspired.  

4. Fall is also a good time to shop for clothing

Besides shopping for the latest spooky Halloween accessories, fall is a great time to buy the essentials that any goth should have in their closet.  In the fashion world, goth will at times become popular among society, and fashion will draw inspiration from the dark subculture.  Sometimes it can be aggravating  seeing the subculture of darklings in the spotlight, and every trendy person striving to wear what goths have been wearing for decades, with no knowledge of the subculture.  However, this is the time of year that we have the clothing advantage.  It's a lot easier now to find clothes more suited for one's dark image, rather than having to buy off the internet, or go to specialty shops.  We can now go to a mainstream store, and find goodies that can even make Elvira squeal.

Another note:  When looking for clothing, try to find clothes and don't look like a costume.  It's important that you do this, because one of the things that set goths apart from goth  look a likes, is how well put together someone's outfit is, as shallow as that seems.  Now, that doesn't mean that you can't buy Halloween items anymore.  That is't what I'm saying.  What I am saying though, is that if you wear something that looks like a costume (or is a costume) as a goth outfit (especially when it's nowhere near Halloween), you won't be taken seriously, which may result in hurt feelings.  The less your outfit looks like a costume, the better you'll be put together.  So, what I am saying is that if you are looking to do some shopping for your gothy closet, stick to clothing that look like...clothing, and stay away from pieces that look like costumes.

5. Have fun

Above all else this October, have as much fun as you can.  Halloween is a celebration of not only dressing up and getting candy, but also the wiccan new year.  I urge you on your adventures of shopping, don't forget to laugh and have fun with the holiday.  Have a happy and safe Halloween everyone!

So, you want to be a Neowiccan? (Neowiccan for beginners)

So, somewhere down the line, you stumbled upon paganism.  After some thought, you decided that you wanted to become involved with it.  That's all well and good, but where does one start?  One doesn't simply 'become' one over night, and for some, it takes quite some time to fully understand what the hub bub is about.  For my first official post about Neowicca, I introduce to you a beginner's guide to the craft.  Even if some of you are reading this out of curiosity, or just for knowledge purposes, I'm ecstatic that people want to read more about it.  Hopefully this will shine some light and stop some of the misunderstandings that surrounds this religion.

1. Wicca and Witchcraft aren't the same thing!

"Wait, what?  Witchcraft and Wicca aren't the same thing?"  No, it's not.  Eventhough wiccans do practice witchcraft, it's not the definition of wicca, but only part of it.

Wicca:  

1. Contemporary paganism, nature based religion, warshipping the god and the goddess (or in some cases, whichever gods/goddess' the participation would like)

2. Incorporates the practice of witchcraft

Neowicca:

1. Non traditional wicca, also known as Eclectic Wicca.  Because most people can't become wiccan, due to not being initiated into a coven, nor have any wiccan lineage, they often take teachings form other pagan sources.  One of those sources are wiccan books that follow the outer court, non oathbound teachings of wicca (Scott Cunningham books).

witchcraft:

1. The art of practices of sorcery and magic

2. Magical influence, witchery (For a quick guide on what witchcraft is and isn't, please refer to my much earlier post: Real Witchcraft).


Now that we've settled what Neowicca is, and what witchcraft is, let's talk about why witchcraft is important to Neowicca.  Neowiccans have a deep appreciation for nature, and lets face it, Neowicca and witchcraft goes hand in hand.  But why?  Well, this is when it gets complicated.  Everyone has their own reason why they are attracted to this religion, as well as practice witchcraft.  I would hope that the people who dabble, are doing it for the right reasons (although that's not always the case).  Most Neowiccans however, practice witchcraft as a form of helping others, along to empower themselves, and others.  It has nothing to do with revenge, nor being a unique snowflake.     

2. Neowicca Practices

Besides witchcraft, there is a lot to Neowicca.  First things first, Neowicca is about studying, not having 'special powers'.  A little anti climatic?  Well, it's true, everything that most people know about Neowicca is wrong, and the sooner we get over that, the better we'll be off.  Next, let's decide if you want to be solitary, or accepted into a coven.  Either way, it will still require to study, and to learn about Neowicca/the craft as often as you can.  It's almost like doing a bible study, if we want to get technical (only we study our book of shadows, or Neowiccan books).

The reason why we study so much, is because when doing spells or rituals, everything ties in together.  If you know which moon phase, day, or even planetary hour to cast a spell, it can have a lot more positive effect on your spell, verses casting them with no direction.  As they say, 'knowledge is power' and the more you know in this case, the more informed you are, which means that you can strive for accuracy.  I suggest to do a lot of research about Neowiccan holidays, moon phases (moon and month correspondence), days of the week, planetary hours, herbs, etc.  Remember, part of Neowicca is working you bum off, and there is no short cuts.  It's like what Yoda said, "Do or do not, there is no try."

When working with the craft, one must also know code of ethics, or the wiccan creed.  The wiccan rede is like our ten commandments, they help guide us on how to use our knowledge, in a constructive way.  The biggest rule, is to harm none.  It's self explanatory, but if you want to get down and dirty, it means don't hurt anyone while performing a spell, or ritual.  Another rule to keep in mind, is that whatever you send out, comes back to you, three fold.  It simply means that if you have negative intent when you perform a spell, then that negativity comes back you times three.  However, if you send out positive intent, then that comes back to you times three.

If you want to read more about the wiccan rede I suggest this: Wiccan Rede.  For more about the history, I suggest this: Wicca Information.

Last thing, before we move on.  Reincarnation.  Wiccans don't believe in a Heaven or Hell, but in reincarnation.  Reincarnation is basically when someone dies, their soul, or spirit, is reborn, and they live another life, without remembering their other lives (unless past life regression takes place, but I'll explain that later).


3. God and Goddess (and others)

When talking about Neowicca, it's hard to agree on which god or goddess to follow.  Mainly Neowiccans follow the horned god, and moon goddess, but there are exceptions.  Neowiccans believe in other gods too, which is why some covens will warship Zeus  some will warship Diana, and it goes on from there.  It really depends on what you want to do.  I know people who are atheist, who practice witchcraft and Neowiccan ways, and I know people who warship more than one god.  I also know people who choose to warship the Christian god, and his son, Jesus.  There are no wrong answers here, but I were you, I would research thoroughly, then go with whichever one seems to fit your belief most. 


4. Tools

Because this is a beginners guide, I must mention tools (or at the very least, tell a little about them).  Some of them are a no brainer, and some of them you might not use an awful lot.  These are just the basic, everyday alter tools.  For other tools, you can find them at the store, or in nature, but I'm only going to list the alter tools.  I might write another post later, more in depth, about alter tools, and ritual tools.

A brief word about alters.  Neowiccans use the same tools as initiated wiccans.  Like most things in wicca, your wiccan alter is sacred, and a space for you to express yourself with the craft. It's best to personalize this space, instead of buying a store bought, or copying from other people.  With wicca, everything is about personalizing.  Also, with your alter, you can decorate it for the seasons, as well as the wiccan holidays.  Just don't forget when decorating, alters area  sacred space for your craft, and should be treated with respect.  Nothing besides wiccan items should be allowed on it, and it should always be well taken care of.

Athame:  A ritual knife, used to direct energy (casting circles).

Candles:  Are one of the most important tools for when casting spells.  The colors represent which type of spell you're casting, and can empower your spells.  Using candles to represent directions, or to invoke the god and goddess (or whomever you choose to warship), are placed on your alter.

Chalice:  It's usually used for ceremonial drink, an offering to the gods, or holding salt water.

Deities:  Statues of a god for your alter.  Placing it on your alter makes it a little more sacred, with the statue watching over it.

Pentacle:   Offers protection during magical work.

Stones/Crystals:  Boosts up a spells power, and can bring earth energy to your alter.

Book of Shadows: Your own sacred text (and something else you need to personalize).  It holds your knowledge, your teachings, your spells, everything.

What I have up there are just the basics.  If you want a more in depth explanation, then read this: Tools


5. Holidays

I'm just going to list the major holidays, I won't go too much in depth about them.  This would need another post (or rather, posts), all it's own.  So for now, I'll just list them and their dates.

Samhain (Halloween): October 31st, pagan new year, honoring the dead, cleansing and releasing.

Yule (Christmas): December 21st, rebirth, life triumphs over death.

Bridgid (Imbolic): February 2nd, purification, initiation, dedication.

Eostara (Easter): March 21st, conception, regeneration, new beginnings.

Beltane (May Day): May 1st, passion that fuels life, joy, fertility.

Litha (midsummer): June 21st, transition, and planning.

Lammas (Lughnasadh): August 1st, gratitude, abundance, fruition.

Mabon (Thanksgiving): September 21st, giving thanks, reflection.



And there you have it, an introduction for Neowicca.  I'll most likely post a much bigger, longer explanation for each of these topics, and more at a later date.  Thank you all who read this monster of a post, I sure hope this was helpful, and insightful.  My point with this article, being that there is more to Neowicca than meets the eye.  It's been a mysterious religion, but with more books being published about the subject, the rumors are starting to be put to rest, so to speak.  I hope to also get others to understand that wicca doesn't mean any harm, nor do we want to convert anyone into evil cults.  Neowiccans are simply misunderstood people, who like in most religions, just want people to tolerate their practices, and have a little respect.

Labels, labels, labels!

Exactly what the title says, the dreaded word that no person, young or old wants to hear.  Labels.  At least one point in our life (most likely when you were in middle, or high school), you have been labeled something, either positive, negative, or part of a certain group.  Most likely, you weren't thrilled when the said person came up with that conclusion, and tried to explain (or argue) about that person's findings.  On the other foot, you have at lest labeled someone at least one time, with the result being the same, if not worse, than when you were labeled.  

Before you go on saying that you've never, or have never done such a thing, you have.  Everyone has.  You've labeled someone, I've labeled someone, and that cranky old lady down the street has labeled someone.  Anyone that says that they have truly never labeled someone, is either telling a lie, or isn't aware that they had.  Now, the point of this article isn't to simply just say 'everyone labels'.  There is actually a hidden meaning why we do this.  

As a society, we have a 'herd' mentality, where we are use to a common norm, and anything outside of that norm, could be seen as dangerous.  This is due to humanity's primitive ancestors.  A way how they decided if something was safe or not, is if it followed their social norms.  If something didn't follow the herd, then they avoided it at all cost, since it could potentially harm them.  With that being said, we still do this, for fear of danger.  This in turn, caused us to come up with 'boxes' to put certain types of people in, or label them, to be part of a group, or stereotype.  Bottom line, we use it as a short way to 'get to know' people, without having to actually talk to them.  We can guess what they like, or how they act, just by looking at them, labeling them to a group, or stereotype, and decide if we really want to interact with that person.

Don’t get stereotypes confused with labeling.  Instead of placing someone with a group of people (either right, or way wrong), stereotypes stamps a negative image on a person, or group of people.  One of the more known goth stereotypes, is that all goths are warship the devil. 

"But shouldn't you get to know the person, before judging them?"  Yes, that's the ideal way of politely getting to know someone, and it's very much encouraged.  However, there is another question I would like to ask:  

If you join a specific group, would you choose to be labeled as part of that group?  

I ask this question, because I believe that in this case, then it would be ok to label someone.  I'm not ashamed to be labeled as a goth, or wiccan, because that's what I am.    I'm both of those things, and me getting upset over the fact that someone labeled me as such, would be pretty stupid.  If someone stereotyped me, then I would hold offense.  This is especially true, if it's something extreme, like the whole 'all goths cut themselves' song and dance.

What I'm trying to say is, if you a join a group, embrace the label with confidence.  Be aware that labels aren't always a bad thing, especially if it's something that you identify with, or that feels like you.  

Goth: An ambiguous definition

What is goth?  You've heard this question thousands of times, asked by baby bats, and non goths alike.  You've also heard just as many different definitions, given by different goths.  Why so many different definition for goths?  Because goth in itself is ambiguous.  Everyone has their own definition for what goth is, and isn't.

The Core of Goth

If you ask the ever so famous, what is goth question, you'll get a million different answers, with a few key points, where most, if not all goths agree on.

1. Goth Music

2. Goth Fashion

3. Goth Art/Literature

These three topics are half of the answer to 'what is goth'.  The other half, comes form everyone's thousands of ambiguous definitions.  What I'm getting at, is you can have your own definition of goth.  I understand what you're thinking, How do I know what is goth, and what isn't?  If I seen someone famous, like Snookie dressed in all black, my first thought wouldn't be goth.  My first thought would be Are you kidding me?  and roll my eyes at the sight.  Wearing all black doesn't make you goth.  If you have a deep appreciation for the darker side of life, then yes, I would say that is goth.  

This is a hard subject to I guess explain somewhat, with so many different definitions, and all of them right.  I don't want to say that goth is what you make of it, but at the same time, it's true.  If you think that part of goth is wearing fishnets and you like them, go for it.  Remember, you don't have to like strictly things that are viewed as goth.  Like I said, goth has an ambiguous definition, and it gets confusing.  Also, don't let elitists bring you down.  There are sticklers like that in every subculture, including the mainstream.  Have fun with it, and be true to yourself.        

Anti-Goth Grant (did I read that right?)

Yesterday was the first I've heard of this from Stripy Tights and Dark Delights.  I have to say, I'm both shocked (maybe not that much), and disappointed that people would actually agree to give a grant for Anti-Goths.  I mean, how are they suppose to battle goth?  Break out the US military, and try to 'kill' it off, like a giant, rampaging monster?  

The Anti-Goth Grant Ends

This baffles me, really!  To ask the US government for money to combat a harmless subculture, or even the idea of goth, is just silly.  It would be like asking the government for a loan to combat against Trekkies (a fan of Star Trek).  It can't be done!

One good thing did come out of this though.  Now instead of battling goth, the people of Blue Springs are aiming towards goth acceptance (better late than never).  I really hope it works out for them, and maybe change a few minds about the negativity that surrounds goth sometimes.

   

The Halloween goth costume debate

I know a few blogs have already touched on this subject, but I felt like writing about it.  There have been a lot of talk about how during Halloween, non goths will dress like goth as a costume.  The amount of people hurt by it, and the amount who are alright with it, seems to be split right down the middle, with a small percentage on the fence.

Against it: 

I can see why one would roll their eyes when a non goth is walking down the street during Halloween, dressed to the nines in goth wear.  What a goth wears everyday isn't a costume, it's them expressing their fashion sense.  Having a non goth wear something that a goth would wear everyday for Halloween, can stir up some hurt feelings.  

The main point of this argument, is that if a goth would to dress in American Eagle clothing for Halloween, and explain to people that it was a costume, non goths would feel offended and hurt that someone would be wearing their fashion like a joke, or think that the goth is making fun of them.  Now, if a non goth did the same to a goth, the goth would feel the same way, and feel like the non goth was making fun of their way of life. 

Ok with it:

On the other hand, many goths feel that everyone has the right to dress how they want to, even if it means to dress goth for Halloween.  No one wants to be the costume police, and no one wants to get told what costume they should wear, or how to wear it.  Is the non goth going to ruin Halloween, just because they are dressed like a goth?  Most likely not.  It's Halloween, and one shouldn't let what another person is wearing, ruin their time. 

My two cents:

I'm on the fence with this one.  I can see both sides of the debate, and why it can be an issue.  I do agree that what I wear on an everyday basis, isn't a costume, but how I express myself.  However, I also agree that everyone should have the right to wear whatever they want to.  

Something to consider is that some people like to wear costumes of a certain profession.  If someone wears a nurse costume, it doesn't necessarily mean that they are making fun of nurses.  Some people like the sexy factor, and others might wear the costume because they respect them, or even wanted to be one at one time.  Another thing is during Halloween, goth is accepted, and even encouraged.  Maybe someone felt like they want to be goth, but are afraid of what their friends and family will say, so they wear a goth costume for Halloween, and that way they can be what they want, without getting judged.  On the other hand, maybe someone isn't a goth, but has an appreciation for the subculture, so during Halloween, they dress in a goth costume, to show their appreciation.  There are a lot of factors to why a non goth would dress goth for Halloween, and not all of them have something to do with making fun of the subculture.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I agree that everyone has the right to wear whatever costume they want for Halloween, without persecution, or ridicule, even if their wearing something that you don't agree with.

     

Goth things I could never got into

I've been busy as of late, so sorry I haven't posted.  For this segment, I will talk about the goth things that I didn't get into and why.  

At some point when one is involved with the goth subculture, they find things that they like and dislike about it.  It's ok not to like everything about goth, and it in no way makes you any less of one.  This is very well explained in Darling Violetta's blog (which I recommend everyone to read).  Thanks to her, I decided to write this entry. 

1. Corsets

I know, it's a shocker.  I do not like wearing corsets.  I don't like how it's snug on my body, and how constricting it can be.  Yes, they make my figure look nice, but I can't handle the tight fabric around my body.  Corset tops like the ones from Tripp, I like because it's not too clingy,  but still tied like a corset.  Maybe if I wore a corset that was better fitting to my body, then I could get use to wearing one.

2. High Heels

I like a good pair of Too Fast heels like any other person.  However, they are the most uncomfortable things that I have ever worn.  I have no idea how women can wear them, to be honest.  I do like the heel's designs, but if they don't support my feet, and if I have way too many issues walking in them, then sadly, I can't wear them.

3. Dreadfalls

I have nothing against people who wear dreadfalls.  I like the colors and how they can make an outfit pop.  I just never gotten into wearing them myself though.  It's a case where other people look good in them, but I don't think I do, and that's why I never wear them.

4. Bustle Skirts

I like the victorian goth look, and I really like some of the skirts with the ruffles.  I'm not too fond of the bustles though.  As a woman with wide hips, a bustled skirt will make my hips and bum the main focus of my outfit, and I'm not too thrilled about that.  So, I like to avoid these as much as possible.

5. Newer Horror Movies

As a fan of the horror genre, I have to say that a lot of the newer movies have been lacking in plot, but have been engrossing in gore.  I miss the older, classic movies, where the plot was at least somewhat original, and the gore wasn't the main focus.  With the CGI tech, it seems that a lot of people just want the awesomely new graphics, instead of a nice, solid, storyline.  Actually, I remember watching The Future of Fear on Chiller, and they said their opinions about over using CGI in horror movies.  I have to say, I agree with them.  If you use too much CGI in a movie, the movie looks fake, and distracts the viewer from what's going on.  If they use a mix of CGI and old school special effects, the movies won't be overly fake, but appear to be real (even if some of the elements are obviously fake).  

6. Poetry

I'm probably going to get a lot of eye rolling for this, but I'm not that much into poetry.  I absolutely hate writing it for one.  Everytime I try to attempt at a decent poem, I write it, then when I go to read it, I cringe at how depressing it sounds (eventhough I don't remember putting anything remotely like that in it).  I do however, like to write Haiku, and I do well in that.  But writing a decent, non Haiku poetry, is not within my talents.  

7. Spiders

I really hate the feeling of something crawling on you, and spiders are no exception.  I don't mind spiders, but they're not my favorite things either.  I like to wear spider jewelry.  I really love my earrings of a black spider.  However, I have a fear of spiders, and if I feel something crawl on me, I get weirded out, not to mention lots of goosebumps.  So, I don't see myself owning a tarantula anytime soon.   

8. Drawn on eyebrows

This is a case of to each their own.  I don't think I would look good with drawn on eyebrows.  There are a lot of pictures of goths who look wonderful with drawn on eyebrows.  I just know that it's not right for me, and think that I would look horrid with them on.   

Great DIY sites to check out

One of the best parts of being goth, is to DIY projects, and to make something new, out of something old.  For the beginner DIYer, it can be overwhelming to know where to start, and what kind of projects to do.  This is where this post comes in, is to help group helpful DIY websites to get started with.

1. Cut Out + Keep is a site that I like to use often.  They have just about everything, and anything that the budding DIYer can get inspired with.

2. Antimony & Lace is another good one.  This one has DIY projects for the darkly inclined.

3. Gothic Martha Stewart has some awesome ideas for decorating, as well as projects.

4. Mookychick has a little bit of everything, as well as things that are fun to read about.

5. A favorite of mine, among other goths is Goth it yourself.  If there is any DIY site that I highly recommend, it's this one.

6. Thread Banger is also interesting.  This is the link to their youtube account.  

7. Be my goth is really cool also.  It shows DIY tutorials, but also goes over some of the basics to sewing, and the like.

Things I wish I knew when I was a baby bat

Looking back at our baby bat years, we often think of who our former selves were, and how we acted.  I'm sure that we all have some funny stories about either a fashion mistake, among other things (I know I have a few).  Part of being a baby bat, means that you're just getting into the goth scene, and eventually, you'll evolve, but for right now, you're going to make tons of mistakes.  However, there are just some mistakes we make as baby bats that we wish we could avoid, instead of climbing up from the deep pitfalls.  I know that I made quite a few of these, and I wish I could kick my baby bat self in the bum.  I hope that this post could help any baby bat, as well as help anyone interested into the subculture.  

Things baby bats should avoid:

1. Only buy clothing from 'alternative' stores

We all go through this as baby bats.  We go to the mall, go to a nice, little Hot Topic store, and buy these awesomely 'unique' clothes/accessories.  Now, I do like to shop at Hot Topic every now and then (especially when they have sales on their accessories), and same thing with other alternative stores.  Dysfunctional doll has some great picks for accessories, as does Good Goth, but only limiting yourself to these stores can make your fashion seem bland (oddly enough), and well, like you bought a 'goth starter kit'.  Strangely, sometimes K Mart, or even Wal-Mart, has some interesting pieces that any goth would love to snatch up.  Not to mention that thrift stores are wonderful places to pick up something you can alter, or wear as is.

What I'm trying to say is that part of evolving your style, means that you might have to look in the strangest of places, in order to find clothing that just shouts out you.  Even if the store is rather mainstream, and not appealing to your otherworldly style, gritting your teeth and lurking around, might just pay off.  Remember to give every store a fair chance.  You'll never know what you'll end up finding.  

2. Everything Black

When you think of goth, you think of a person wearing all black, with hardly any color at all.  That's well and good, and black is a very nice shade, and there are quite a few outfits that I have that are all black.  However, goths don't stick with wearing just black, and colors are incorporated to their style, opening up more doors to express their fashion.  I know it seems a little taboo to the budding baby bat, wearing color with their dark attire, but it is normal for goths to wear colors, no matter what the stereotypes say.  So, don't think it's not goth to wear colors, because it will limit your creativity to piece together some awesomely whimsical outfits.  As for continuing to wear all black, sure, you can still do it.  It's all about wearing what you like to express yourself.    

3. Collars and overloading on accessories

Besides wearing all black, most people picture a goth with a leather collar around their necks.  Now, with the right outfit, leather collars can look pretty cool.  However, one pitfall that baby bats fall in, is wearing them all the time, with everything.  Lets face it, collars don't go with everything, no matter how 'alternative' it looks.  The same thing as wearing leather, and/or multiple bracelets.  It doesn't work all the time, and there are times when wearing neither is appropriate.  There is a thing such as too much accessorizing, and when you over do it, it can make a great outfit, look gaudy, and like you're trying too hard.  So, knowing when to wear these items are very helpful for not only baby bats, but for any goth.

4. Too much makeup

Another pitfall with looking the part, is makeup.  You can make so many mistakes with makeup, and even some of the most skilled goths, can have a little trouble with it every now and then.  One of the issues that we have to look out for with makeup, is wearing too much of it.  Too much white powder can make us ghost white, instead of pale, and too much black eyeliner can make us look like a raccoon.  Knowing the right amount of makeup to use, and learning how to put in correctly, can save you a lot of trouble.  It pays off to know this, so you can look frightfully wonderful, instead of just frightful.

5. Goth clothes and creativity

Something that took me a while to realize, is that DIY can make clothes more unique than any alternative store.  I recently gotten into crafts, and made quite a few accessories, and alterations to pieces that just came out awesomely.  It pays off to know how to sew, use bleach correctly, and the like.  Surfing the net to get inspiration to the limitless things you can make, means a lot more to the subculture, than just buying 'the goth starter kit'.  It means that you took the time to make something, or tweak it, putting the effort to mold your own style.  Like mentioned before, goths take a lot of time to piece together the perfect outfit, in order to express themselves.  Some time researching projects can certainly pay off, and you can let your creative juices flow.   

6. Drawing inspiration

One thing that is recommended when you begin this journey, is to look for, and draw inspiration from others.  Try looking up famous gothic icons, and see what you like about them, and their style.  Who knows, maybe you'll look at your favorite goth character, and form a whole new style, being inspired by them.  You don't have to limit yourself to just goth icons though.  Actually there are some non goths you can use for inspiration, and the same goes for mainstream styles.  Anything can be used to inspire a whole new outfit, or how you wear your makeup/hair.  The point is to do research, and form something new out of your creativity.  

7. Knowing when goth is acceptable

It would be nice for goth to be loved wherever you go, and in every situation.  Sadly, it's not.  When a goth goes to work, they have to learn to dress down, and conform to the dress code.  Fishnets, corsets, and platform boots, have no place during an interview, or a job.  It would be nice for a goth to wear what they want, while working, but most bosses frown on that, and won't hire someone who has tattoos, or piercings.  I know I sound like someone's mother, or grandmother, but what I say is true.  This is a lesson learned at some point in a baby bats life, and many goths still struggle with this.  If a goth ever wants a job (this includes you, baby bats!), we have to learn how to dress down for jobs, and other events, and when to dress up for the club, or a nice day out. 

8. More goth than thou

No one likes an elitist.  People who tell everyone how goth they are, and that no one else will be as goth as they are, are just plain annoying, and we roll our eyes at them.  These types of people often ruin the subculture for a lot of us.  Now, on the other foot, baby bats who pull this, aren't taken seriously within the goth community, which makes us yet again, roll our eyes.  Anyone who makes a giant point to tell everyone how goth they are, are most likely A) Trying too hard to be goth, and has doubts in if they are or not, or B) Are just that type of person who wants to make other goths feel bad, and make themselves feel superior.  Either way, it's not a good thing to be this person, so don't do it.  

9.  Stereotypes

Another thing that I hoped that I realized long before my baby bat days were over, was sticking to the well known goth stereotypes.  Like any other person, I thought that you had to fit into a certain image, in order to be goth.  It sounds like a foolish thing to believe, but you'll be surprised by how many baby bats fall into this.  Actually, when someone is goth, and acts mopey and depressed, people think of the South Park goth kids.  I'm not kidding, when people think of goth, that's what they think of.  Please know that you don't have to be depressed to be a goth, nor do you have to be unfriendly to people, or any of the laughable stereotypes that has been stapled onto the subculture over the years.  What I'm going with this is, be yourself, and don't feel like you need to be any of the stereotypes, in order to be accepted within the subculture.  People respect you more for doing so, as well as older goths.  

    

10. Dealing with non goths

There are a lot of ways to deal with a non goth, being uncomfortable about your gothyness.  The best way is to be nice and talkative, instead of falling into to the goth stereotype 'all goths are anti-social/cranky'.  People will say mean things about your clothing, it comes with the territory.  However, it doesn't mean that we should be aggressive back, and make fun of non goths.  Don't take the insults seriously, and move on with your day.  If someone asks about your outfit, answer them truthfully.  Some people generally want to know about what you're wearing, so why bite their heads off?  I can understand that some of us get suspicious when people pretend to want to know what we're wearing, or ask questions about goth, just to mock us.  Still, don't let it bother you.  The point is to educate people on goth, and diminishing the stereotypes, in a positive manor (no matter how mean some people are).  

There may be times where you are physically threatened by non goths.  It doesn't happen often, but when it does, it can be scary.  There are way too many violent stories about people hurting goths, just because of what they're wearing, and in some cases, the goth ends up dead (I think the lot of you are aware of Sophie Lancaster).  If you are in this situation, I urge you to fight back, run away, do what you have to do to get out of it.  Physical violence is not an excuse, for people wearing clothing that they want to.

Sometimes goths forget that baby bats are our future, and can be just as rude.  Remember to don't let it bother you, some goths forget that everyone was a baby bat once, and should be in a teachable mode, rather than criticize baby bats.  If goths politely gave baby bats advice, rather than ranting about it, I'm sure that both groups could have a better coexistence with eachother.  So, goths have to learn to be nice baby bats as well, and try to help them out once in a while.           

Fashion and Barriers

At some point in our gothy lives, we've heard someone, either a friend or family member (or a random person), say that our fashion is creating a barrier between ourselves and the rest of the world.  We know that our family and friends mean well (as well as the random person), and sometimes their concerns make us want to roll our eyes.  Even makeover shows, like TLC's What Not To Wear, makes snap judgments that either goths are creating the said barrier, or they are unhappy with themselves.

I'm sure that most of us who are goth, don't feel this way, because we like to dress a certain way, and everyone has their own personal style.  It's nothing new for people to be uneasy about goth clothing, and most of us are use to the reactions that we get, no matter how annoying it is.  But, are the clothes we wear are the blame for an imaginary barrier that separates ourselves, and the mainstream?  Is there even a barrier at all?  Personally, I think the whole barrier thing is a load of BS.  There is only a barrier, if we allow one to be there.  I believe that if there is a social barrier, then everyone is responsible for it, not just goth fashion.  

The mainstream is partially to blame, because instead of getting to know a real goth, they assume that the negative stereotypes surrounding the goth subculture is right, and don't even try to make an effort.  In a society where we are suppose to celebrate what we are, and what we believe in, fashion seems to be the only thing that people are still allowed to nit pick.  I've met quite a few non goths who were very friendly, and eventhough I didn't become close friends with them, they were still attempting to make an effort to talk to someone who's a little different.  Now, instead of making up catchy insults, if non goths would make an effort, then goths wouldn't feel a need to be suspicious of a non goth's kindness, or question why a non goth is striking up a conversation with them.  Then the mainstream can have accurate information on what a goth is really like, and thusly, have no reason to put up a 'barrier'.

Goths are also to blame.  Yes, we don't ask for someone to insult us, calling us 'freaks', and the like.  We don't ask for any physical and emotional assaults that people have the need to hand to us.  At the same time, we have to understand that some of our clothing choices are great for the clubs, but not for work, or other activities.  Like if someone wore a corset to a job interview, the person will most likely not get hired, because they didn't dress the part.  What I'm trying to say is goths need to know when to dress up, and when to dress down, for occasions, so we can show non goths that we can function in society just fine, without having to change our style, or what we like.

What do you guys think?  Do you think that there is a 'barrier'?  Has anyone told you that your clothes makes a barrier between you and other people?

Munsters Remade

When I heard that NBC was going to remake the ever so classic, Munsters, my eyes just about popped out of my head.  "Why would anyone want to remake a classic?" I asked.  Then, I heard that the classic Munsters, were no longer going to be the comedic family that we know.  Instead, it's going to be a drama.  You just read that right, it's going to be a drama, which hardly seems Munster like at all.  

Not much has been said about the up coming remake.  Munsters Remake, is an article that I found about it.  More to come, I'm sure.  I'll keep my eyes out for it, and probably  post updates.

Real Witchcraft

This is my first post about witchcraft, which was about time.  I love my gothy posts, but I think I'll turn to other subjects as well.  For this segment, I would like to talk about real witchcraft, and not stuff that you see out of the movies.

There is a lot of confusion about witchcraft.  I can understand why, most people aren't very open with talking about it, as it's still seen as a taboo subject.  Like goth, witchcraft has a lot of negative stereotypes, and people who don't follow it, have bad opinions on it.  Sometimes it's hard to talk to someone about it, without them asking if you warship the devil, or have them roll their eyes and say it's not real.  Maybe it's not real, but it's all about faith, like Christianity, etc.  

A few things that witchcraft is not:

• It's not a cure all.  That means that if you cast a spell, don't expect it cure all your issues.  You still need to make decisions, and you still need to live your life.
• It's not about warshipping the devil.  Actually, you can perform witchcraft, and warship any god you want to.  You can even warship the Christian god, though some would argue with this.  
• It's not evil, but neutral.  It depends on what you send out to the world.  As long as you don't harm anyone, then you're ok.
• If you're expecting to do spells like they do in the movie, The Craft, then sorry to say, they don't exist.  While spells that change your eye color sound cool, they don't work.  You need special contacts for those.  Doing spells for invincibility, or invisibility, won't work.  Same thing with controlling the weather, it's impossible.  That's not what real witchcraft is about.  Real witchcraft is, to be frank, almost like praying, for those who follow Christianity.  Sure, we do love spells, money spells, etc, but like preying, it's about faith, hope, and that what you're doing will help you to find what you're looking for.   
• You don't have to be goth to be into witchcraft.  Some of them are, which is cool, but just like how everyone in the goth community is different, so are all those who practice the craft.
• We certainly don't sacrifice animals, or people.  The media likes to over play this in some movies that feature witchcraft.  Despite what everyone thinks, no, we don't sacrifice living things, or would we want to.  Many people that perform witchcraft would rather live side by side with animals, instead of cutting them open.  Just the thought makes them squirm.  
• Witchcraft isn't a religion.  Most people confuse witchcraft with being a pagan religion like wicca, but it's not.  It's a craft, which means that you perform it, and incorporate it into your life/religion.

The Goth Challenge, Day 27, 28, 29, 30

This is the final one, my last goth challenge entry.  I have to say, I had to give some thought on some of the days, like some actual sit and ponder thinking.  It was good, I liked it a lot actually.  I will be skipping day 26, because I don't have any decent pictures of every year I was goth.  Anyway, without further ado, here we go!

Day 27: The worst thing you've ever done to a newbie

I can safely say that I have never done anything rude to a newbie goth.  When i was in high school, there were only about three students, including myself who have curiosity for the dark side.  Besides that, I have never met a newbie before, but if I do in the future, I wouldn't do anything to discourage them from getting their feet wet with the subculture.  I was a newbie at one point too.

Day 28: Do you consider yourself and eldergoth?

I'm not old enough to be an eldergoth I'm afraid.  I'm in my early 20's, so I have a while before I hit the eldergoth bracket.

Day 29: What do you think will happen to goth in the future?

Another question I will have to give some thought on.  In a perfect world, I would hope that in the future that goth becomes more celebrated, where it's more socially accepted.  It would be naive of me to think that it could happen in the future.  Maybe it will, maybe it won't, I don't know, but it would be nice if society had a positive look on goth, rather than the negative stereotypes that cling to it.  

With that being said, I think that goth itself is fairly subjective, and everyone has a different outlook on what is, and isn't goth.  Along with that, sometimes you get the elitists who ruin it for the newcomers, which then less people want to be part of it.  I hope that in the future, such elitists will be more kinder to newbies, and baby bats, since we were all there once.  I think it's rude to state what goth is, or isn't, if it's all based on a personal definition.  So hopefully in the future, people will learn to lighten up on it, and enjoy the subculture for what they believe it to be.

I can't wait to see what happens in the future, regardless if it's for the better or worse.  

Day 30: Make a list of blogs you regularly read

I will be more than happy to make a list of the blogs, however, I don't feel right about linking to them, since access was not granted. 

• Sophistique Noir: It's a wonderful blog with fashion ideas for the adult goth, who wants to break out of their baby bat shell, and have a more mature style.
• Stripy Tights and Dark Delights: I think this a blog that all goths should read, young and old, new or not.  The author has some great advice, good information about the subculture, and she's pretty humorous.
• GIY (Goth It Yourself): This blog has some neat DIY project ideas for the darkly inclined.  I'm looking forward to doing one of these projects soon. 

DIY With Bleach

I think most of us had experience with DIY with bleach, or at the very least, know what happens when bleach gets onto dark, or colored clothes.  I've seen quite a few interesting designs on clothes, where people used bleach.  I even did one of my own, with some pretty nice results.  There are a few things to remember while using bleach though:

• Bleach is a chemical, so be responsible while using it.  This should really be obvious, but I felt the need to say it, just in case.  Also, take precautions.  Use a news paper, or cardboard for easy mess cleanup, and to make sure that the areas you don't want bleach on, is covered.
• When using bleach, it's best used by spraying it from a bottle, and using a stencil to guide where you spray.  I used a cheap paint brush to apply bleach, and little did I know, the bleach ate my brush's bristles.  There was nothing left by the time I got done with my DIY project.  The moral of the story, don't use paintbrushes with bleach.  The bristles will disenigrate.
• After bleaching, I would let it dry for a few hours, then I would wash it.  After that, you can wear it proudly.

Goth Challenge, Day 21, 22, 23, 24, 25

Happy late goth day everyone!  I hope that everyone had enjoyed the spooky day as much as I did.  For this segment, I'll be busy completing the goth challenge.

Day 21: What body mod do you have, or have you considered?

While I do like some people's body mods (and they do look quite artful), I have never been the type to want to do much of it.  It's a personal choice, I'm content with my ear piercings.  If I do choose to get a body mod done, maybe either a nose piercing, or another ear piercing would be nice.  I had considered getting a tattoo, but then I remember that I'm fearful of needles, so I don't think I'll be getting one of those anytime soon.

Day 22: If you could attend any goth event, what would it be?

Right now, I think any goth event would be a good one.  Living at an area where there aren't any goths my age (unless you want to count baby bats, but I'm older than that, so it would be a little awkward), and the closest thing remotely promoting alternative subcultures, is a Hot Topic, it gets a little aggravating.  I have considered making my own goth event, but sadly, I don't think I can get a goth friendly event group to help out, especially at a place where goth isn't welcome.

Day 23: Your favorite artist or photographer?

I don't look at enough photography to really know who my favorite is.  As for art, I like some of the classic artists, Picasso, van Gogh, but other than that, I don't pay attention to new artists as much.  I pay more attention to the pieces, and if I like it.

Day 24: Name the best websites for goths

I haven't been many goth websites.  If I had to pick one, I would say Blogspot.  It's not exactly a goth website, but there are a lot of goths on it, and a lot of goth blogs are very helpful for baby bats, and elder goths alike.  It's a nice place to share beauty tips, fashion, and advice for everyday goths.  

Day 25: Did you ever consider leaving the subculture?

Yes and no.  A few years back, I wasn't happy about how things were going, and I had just started college.  College was frustrating at times, the workload and exams were harsh enough, but making new college friends was tough too.  I decided to still be my spooky self, but try to dress in a more mature, goth way.  I never truly left the subculture, but I reinvented myself to be mature, instead of looking like a rebellious baby bat.  I figured out that I can still be goth, but I can also be a mature adult about it.

Of Goths and Makeovers

A few things have been bothering me as of late, it has to do with making over goths, and yes, I do believe I feel a slight rant coming on.  

A lovely picture of a goth, from Wikipedia

A lot of you are probably familiar with shows like What Not To Wear, or How Do I Look.  If you're not, then I'll give you a quick synapse of what the shows are about:

What Not To Wear and How Do I Look are both makeover shows (hence the tittle of this entry), who give makeovers to those who are fashionably challenged, as well as those who 'give up' on fashion.  Usually the 'fashion victim's' family will nominate them, and tell the hosts how horrendous the victim's fashion is.  Sometimes the hosts of these shows have some good fashion advice, like dress according to your body type, or a nice belt can help create a nice hourglass shape.  The hosts will then turn to say some pretty crude comments about the fashion victim's style, making fun of the people who they're suppose to be helping (I suppose the quickest way to get someone to stop doing something, is to make fun of them, but I feel that is beyond rude, even for the right reasons).  There is a difference between wanting to change your fashion choices, and being forced to change, which I feel that the people who are nominated are being forced to change.  If someone wanted the help with their fashion crisis, then I say go for it, because it's wanted change, instead of forced change. 

Now, what does this have to do with goth?  Both shows have featured punks, goths, and alternative people who 'looks scary, and are in need of a makeover'.  We know that non goths don't have a great opinion about goths, and subcultures alike.  We are very much aware that mainstream likes to put everything in boxes, even if the stereotypes are true or not.  It amazes me that the hosts of these shows try to rationalize why someone wishes to dress alternative, and give some sort of psychoanalysis, because we know that people don't wear alternative fashion because they like it, there has to be something wrong with them psychologically to want to wear it *rolls eyes*.  

Like many non goths, the hosts think that either someone is 'still in their goth phase', or they think that the person doesn't feel attractive, and pick at their insecurities, just to make the person that they are trying to help, admit that they have self image issues.  Again, making fun of someone until they change their fashion style, so they can be accepted within mainstream society, isn't a very productive way to go about it.  If anything, it makes the person feel worse about themselves, and feel like they have to do what they can to fit in, sort of like high school.  

I understand that not everyone will accept alternative subcultures fully, and there will always be criticism everywhere you go, but is it possible to have high self-esteem, and confidence, eventhough one is goth?  I personally believe it's possible.  As long as one is happy with what they're wearing, and one knows how to dress for the occasion, I don't see a problem with someone being goth, and therefor, don't think that they need a makeover, unless they really want to change something about their wardrobe.  They key word being want, and not have change forced upon them by family members who thinking that the person has to change, just to fit in.  

Goth Challenge, Day 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, and 20

I really want to finish up these goth challenges, because I'm really behind.  So, in order to do that, I'm going to group together five days per post, which means that I will only have to do three posts.  It makes a lot more sense.

Day 15: Your favorite or most expensive item in your wardrobe

I'm pretty sure that the most expensive item in my wardrobe is my Tripp pants, as much as I'd hate to admit that I wear them from time to time, though, they aren't my favorite.  I'm not sure which is my favorite to be perfectly honest.  I like my clothes, but I'm not super emotionally attached to them (though if I do get a hole in one of my dress shirts, I will go ballistic).  My favorite accessory, however, I can answer easily.  It's a beautiful silver snake bracelet that my boyfriend gave me for my birthday.

Day 16: What's the most casual you've ever dressed?

This one is very easy.  I wear a pair of jeans, flip flops, and an anime t-shirt, for casual wear, or when I'm going to the store.  I wear no make up, I don't bother doing my hair, except for brushing it.  I actually look pretty normal when I'm running late for an appointment.

Day 17: Your favorite goth brand?

I'm not sure, I don't really pay attention to goth brands much (though I do have a few things from Tripp).  I like clothing that is flattering to my body type, and doesn't look tacky, nor like I'm trying to be a rebellious teenager.  I do recommend Dysfunctional Doll, for accessories.

Day 18: Worst hair experience?

Once, I tried styling my hair to look more rockabilly.  It worked, but because of the length of my hair, it was less rockabilly, and it made me look like Michelle Pfeiffer, when she was playing Catwoman in Batman Returns.  It was about the same length, and made my hair look really poofy.

Day 19: Share beauty advice and take a picture of your makeup

I'm not wearing makeup today, so no pictures, but I will share some makeup tips.

• Make sure that you know how to wear eyeliner correctly.  I don't mean not to experiment with it, because everyone should, but if you wear too much, it could make you look like a raccoon, and people might miss the good job you did with your eye shadow, because they're too busy paying attention to the eyeliner.  With that being said, don't go overboard with the corner eye designs too, that can be just as bad.  If you're a baby bat, then it's the perfect time to learn how to correctly apply eyeliner.  
• Experiment with different styles.  It doesn't matter if they turn out good or bad, experiment and find out what works best for you.
• There is nothing wrong with not wearing makeup once in a while.  Actually, it's nice to go without makeup some days.
• When you use white foundation, apply it tastefully, and don't look like a ghost, unless that's what your going for.  Having a pale look is great, but it's just bad when you're white as a ghost.

Day 20: If you could dye your hair any color, what would it be?

Lately I've been getting into reds and purples, and a year ago, I had a mix of the two for a hair color.  I have to say, it came out awesomely, and not what you would expect from the two.  

Goth Challenge, Day 12, 13, 14

I really do hate allergy season.  I'm busy sniffling up a storm, and I really hope that the pollen will stop soon.  On another note,I'm still trying to play catch up with this challenge, so I think for now on, I'll just group days together.  

Day 12: What is your gothic inspiration?

This is another hard question to answer, and one that I haven't gave much thought.  While growing up, there weren't many inspirations for goth.  I was going off of TV shows, and cartoons that had goths in them, so I was pretty limited with inspiration.

  If I have to choose one person as my gothic inspiration, it would be a mix between Morticia Adams and Lily Munster.  Both women dress elegantly, have well put together make up, and have wonderful personalities that goes against the negative goth stereotypes.  There is no doubt in my mind that both women make great gothic role models, and it's no wonder why someone would be inspired by them.  

Coming at a close second, is Lydia Deetz.  I appreciated the fact that she was a young goth, who's personality also defied negative goth stereotypes.  She knows that she's different, but she doesn't let the non goths bother her with their comments.  I liked how she was friends with people just as spooky as she was, and had fun with them, instead of worrying what everyone thought about her.  Her clothing choice isn't half bad either.

Day 13: What was your first band t-shirt?

I'm still waiting on that one.  I really want to see Inkubus Sukkubus, and I love their music, so I just might search around the internet for a t-shirt featuring them.

Day 14: What was your best and worse DIY disaster?

Best:

I have trouble thinking about my best DIY project.  If I really have to pick one, I would say my shirt that I had to sew fishnet onto.  Fishnet alone is a difficult fabric to work with, and I was going nuts sewing it onto the shirt.  It seemed that every five minutes, I ran into either a snag, or something went wrong with the fishnet material, so you can imagine how much of a victory it was to complete such a task.  I altered the shirt about a year ago, and the fishnet is still holding up like new.

Worse:

I was given a long, black dress, which was a pretty material.  I had a vision for a spooky dress, cutting the bottom to make fringes.  Well, I got sick of the fringes, and cut them off.  Then when I went to measure the length of the dress, it was too short for me to wear, so I had to scrap it.  I really wished that I would have drawn out the design first, before cutting it.